A few years ago, I ran across the idea of creating a Family Mission Statement. My kids were very young at the time, and so even though the beauty caught my attention right away, it seemed a bit funny to create a document with small children who could mostly just coo and poop. So, we soaked on it for awhile as I learned how to manage those sleepless nights with leaking breastmilk and lots of coffee first.
A year and a half ago, I published a devotional for moms that included coloring pages and a lot of strategy for getting through motherhood with wings instead of daily confessional time. It’s called “40 Days to a Joyful Motherhood“! My hope was that out of my own inner healing process, I would be girded in how to cancel generational patterns that wouldn’t serve my family (or myself) well while also promoting the type of family life that I believed God created and envisioned Himself. It still came with daily confessional time (let’s be honest!), but it also came with more joy than it did sarcasm as well as more direction than it did bitterness. Being a mother is a gift. It requires a certain level of sacrifice to raise another person well. It also requires nourishment and boundaries, hope in God, and the deep need for grace. I would say that many of us learn motherhood with trial and error. Though there are resources out there to support parenthood, possibly too many resources, it became clear to me that the best resource my kids had was my joy. A mother’s joy feeds all things. It creates an environment for freedom, learning, nourishment, and thriving. It envelopes the hearts of little people and husbands alike, and it’s exactly what can be missing in our tech-savvy and busy culture. Don’t hear me wrong; I love the modern conveniences of Google, text messaging, and Instagram feeds of cute babies. It, at many times, helps make my world go round. But what I love most is when my heart is full and when my family is soaking in the comfort of my joy and peace.
And so became my reason for developing Core Values for our family. I wouldn’t quite name it a Family Mission Statement yet (we’re almost there!!) but the values that these 10 sentences represent to us as family, will soon create an abbreviated statement that says in a simple way: “This is who the Humphrey’s are and how they aspire to live a life of purpose.”
It’s my hope that through this short series of blogs, you can catch a vision for what you’d like your unique family life to represent! We started primarily with how we care for ourselves, care for those in our family, as well as how we want to express our skills and gifts. For us, this was the best place to start! Below are our ten core values. We’re still working on coloring them in and getting them displayed in our house over this next few weeks. It’s a great way to start January 2018! Enjoy! I’d love to hear what you incorporate into yours!
- We are a family; we’re all we’ve got. We stick together, speak kindly, and always respect each other. Romans 12:10
- We make the interests of others above our own–this goes not only for our family but also for our guests. Philippians 2:3
- We admit that we are human and can sometimes hurt each others’ feelings, and when we do, we ask for forgiveness. 1 John 1:9
- At the same time, we recognize that no one is perfect, so we should be quick to forgive those that hurt us. Ephesians 4:32
- Our house is an open, safe, and judge-free place to express feelings and thoughts–no matter the subject. Galatians 6:1-3
- We have boundaries to keep us on the right path, not rules that can be restricting. Colossians 3:20-25
- Life is supposed to be fun. Laughing is encouraged. Psalm 126:3
- Sometimes people need space, and we respect that. 1 Peter 2:17
- God is the reason we are together as a family so we thank Him often and give Him our time. Revelation 4:11
- We value hard work and give 110% in all we do, not to produce perfection, but to be good stewards with what we have been given. Colossians 3:23